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I wish everyone in our Push to Walk family a very Merry Christmas! I hope you enjoy family, friends, caring and sharing this holiday season. May you enjoy celebrating with those you love, cherishing the gifts of time spent together, family bonds and friendship. I am blessed to have all of you in my life, and am thankful to know you and your families. Our Push to Walk family holds a special place in my heart, and I am grateful to our wonderful and dedicated staff, motivated clients, supportive families, generous donors and good friends  who, together, make it all happen! Thank you for all you do for me, our clients, our program and our organization. Merry Christmas, everyone!

Love Cynthia

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Happy Wednesday!

I am SO happy to tell you that I have FINALLY completed all of the topics on my list to share with you in our Family Corner section of our website. While this information has been 10 years in the making, I do hope it is relevant and helpful to anyone going through the experience of sustaining a spinal cord injury – whether it is the person themselves, friends, family, loved ones, etc. Some of these topics required me to think back and re-live certain situations I would rather forget. Others enabled me to review what we had been through and try to provide others with information and knowledge. Most of them brought on powerful emotions which are usually just beneath the surface of my (hopefully) cool, calm and collected self. Many people I have met on this journey have told me how helpful my writings have been to them. Together with the emails in the “One Family’s Personal Story” section , I hope I have provided a glimpse into our lives that lets you know you are not alone. There are others that understand; there are others struggling with the same kind of challenges. One Mom told me that when she reached the end of my emails, she was hoping there was more. When she had read them all, she went back to the beginning and read them again. Re-reading them later, as she was dealing with changes in her daughter’s situation, she gleaned different things from them than the first time around.

While I generally find writing of this sort to be a healing process and a healthy outlet, it can also be emotionally draining. It’s not easy to re-live all the details of the early days, weeks and months. But in doing so, I hope I can help others, and that is a reward greater than the task. If I can help you with anything related to spinal cord injury that you or a loved one is going through, please email me at ctempleton@pushtowalknj.org. It’s all about helping one another, and paying it forward.

Cynthia

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Happy Friday! Happy Spring! I hope the calendar means that warm weather and sunshine are on their way.

My most recent addition to Push to Walk’s Website – Family Corner section is on getting help from others after a loved one sustains a spinal cord injury. I know that I felt, as a Mom, that only I could do certain things for my child. And for a time, that was pretty true. Or at least I felt I was the only one who “could or should” do things; who else would do as good as job, etc. But as time passed, I knew accepting help from others would help all of us. Not only for the family relationships as mother/son, but for me and my husband as well, and also for Darren and his sister. Family dynamics (which I’ll discuss in an upcoming section) were greatly affected, and having others help with day to day tasks and/or specific jobs really became a lifesaver.

I found it really important for Darren to take charge of his own care, to articulate his needs and make sure things were done properly. Those lines get blurry when it’s a family relationship, then the relationship becomes strained and affects other feelings. While it is impossible to think everything will go smoothly when talking about daily care and family relationships, at least having a good framework to work within, or goals to reach definitely can help.

Please check out the Family Corner section of our website, and I hope my experience helps someone out there going through similar situations. If you have ways you did things that helped you and your family, please let me know!

Cynthia

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Happy Friday!

First, a shout-out to the Kinnelon High School Future Business Leaders of America (FBLA) and their advisor Anna Ellington for supporting Push to Walk and raising $600 for us through their help with the Jack O’Lantern Jamboree held last October. Thank you for all of your energy and enthusiasm!

For the next several Fridays, my blog post will be tied to new content we’ve added to the Family Corner section of our website. I know it’s been awhile since I’ve added new information to that part of our site, but I have committed to completing it, and have thought of new topics as well.

On the topic of “Doctors and Out-patient Therapy,” I hope I have provided some helpful information. Even though it has been almost 10 years (this July) since Darren’s injury, I can still remember the worries I had in coming home. He had battled SO many medical issues during his in-patient stay, that I was fearful of what lay ahead. At Shepherd Center, if there was a need for a doctor or a specialist, they were just called in. They did their rounds, came to his room – it was all very convenient. But the idea of being home without that medical support (in addition to all the other concerns!) was overwhelming.

Preparing ahead was the key, and making connections well before our arrival home made the transition that much easier. Read my post here. I hope you find it helpful.

If you have ideas for new topics in our Family Corner, or have questions you can’t find answers to anywhere else, please let me know!

Enjoy the weekend,

Cynthia

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Ahhh, finally….on the twelfth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me……

Dare we put all my “days” together? They will definitely not sound anything like the song, nor as pretty, but hopefully meaningful……and now that I know the twelve days of Christmas actually START on Christmas Day, I’ll have to….oh no, don’t even think about that……..guess I should have done my research BEFORE starting this little project!

I’ll stick with twelve drummers drumming because I can relate to that. Whether it be a high school marching band like my friend Lisa’s daughter – highly competitive and striking to watch – or  Ohio State University’s incredible musical feats, or drummers in bands, I love them all! We’ve seen some incredible drummers perform live music recently, some SO young, and they are all amazing. There’s something hypnotic about live music, and drummers can do that to me!

So here goes: 12 drummers drumming, 11 parents praying, 10 lords/ladies-a-lifting, 9 ladies dancing, 8 merry Santas, 7 Christmas cookies, 6 silver bells, 5 golden rings, 4 waterfalls, 3 rules of three, 2 sunrises & sunsets and one family. Well, not too bad if you hum along and have a little imagination!

Stay tuned for a follow-up post before I journey into 2014 with new ideas!

Wishing you all a VERY Merry Christmas, and may it be blessed with family and friends to celebrate joy and peace during the season.

Love Cynthia

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On the eleventh day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…….eleven parents praying………..

Since my son Darren’s spinal cord injury, I have met countless parents, all distraught over the catastrophic injuries that have now changed their lives. I met people who are very religious and turn to their Faith for understanding. I have met those who claim not to believe in God, because if there was a God, how could He let this happen? And then there are so many caught in the middle, not knowing what to believe, who to believe in, and why this has happened.

I do not intend to use this blog to purport any religious beliefs, or even state my own personal intentions. In my experience, though, I have seen many parents praying for their sons and daughters, praying for themselves, and praying for those who can help their children, whether related to medical or daily needs.

During this Christmas season, along with all the commercial accompaniments, I hope you find that prayer can help you, console you, calm you and strengthen you. Let whatever Faith you hold dear to your heart be the backbone of your existence. Stay strong, not only for yourself, but for those around you who need you and rely on you. May your Faith be a guiding light this holiday season.

With love and faith, Cynthia

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Oh, I’ve been singing this song in my head (you wouldn’t want me to sing out loud!) for days trying to get ready for this project of mine I have convinced myself to take on. So here goes………

On the First Day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…………a wonderful family! My two children, Darren and Arianne, have brought so much love and joy into my world, I can’t really describe it. I’m sure all of you parents out there reading this can relate to what I’m saying.

While I try to follow my own advice all through the year, during the Christmas season I try especially hard to not lose sight of the importance of family in my life. While my husband and I have both lost our parents, and extended family is not really part of our lives, my husband, children, siblings and their kids are my focus. It is my family that got me through the most difficult days when Darren was first spinal cord injured (my Mom was alive then and provided a very strong support system) and continues to this day. It is my family that keeps me going  day after day, month after month and year after year.

I hope you have family with which to celebrate this holiday season, and if blood relatives are not part of your life, I hope you have found friends and communities who can stand in their place and give you the support you need to life live as fully as possible every single day of this holiday season.

Celebrate FAMILY! Until tomorrow…………Cynthia

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